Grief Therapy for Pregnancy Loss, Stillbirth & Infant Loss in San Diego
Finding Comfort and Connection After Loss
Losing a baby or a pregnancy changes everything. Whether you are grieving a miscarriage, a termination for medical reasons, a stillbirth, a neonatal loss, or the death of an infant, your grief is real and it deserves a space that truly understands it.
This is not the kind of loss that comes with a roadmap. There may be no funeral, no bereavement leave, no casseroles from neighbors. People around you may not know what to say, or may say the wrong thing entirely. You may feel pressure to move on before you are anywhere near ready.
Here, none of that applies. You are allowed to grieve as long and as deeply as you need to.
I offer two approaches to grief support, and for many clients, they work best together.
Grief Therapy
Grief therapy gives you a steady, supported space to process what you have been through at your own pace. We make room for the emotions that feel too big to hold alone: the shock, the anger, the guilt, the love, the longing. We also tend to the parts of grief that often go unacknowledged, like the identity loss of becoming a parent who is no longer parenting, or the complicated feelings that can come with subsequent pregnancies.
IADC: Induced After-Death Communication
IADC is a gentle, structured therapeutic process developed by Dr. Allan Botkin that uses bilateral stimulation, similar to EMDR, to help you access a deeper level of emotional processing. For many grieving parents, it creates a profound sense of connection, peace, or closure with the baby or pregnancy they lost.
IADC is not about belief in any particular spiritual framework. People of all backgrounds and belief systems have found it meaningful. And while no specific experience is guaranteed, many clients describe it as a turning point in their grief.
IADC is typically offered as two 90-minute sessions scheduled close together so the emotional momentum is not lost between them.
Two Ways I Support Grief
Who This Work Is For
This space is for you if you are grieving:
A miscarriage, whether early or late, whether your first or your fifth.
A termination for medical reasons, including a diagnosis that left you with an impossible choice.
A stillbirth, or a birth where your baby did not survive.
A neonatal loss, including a baby who lived for hours, days, or weeks.
The death of an infant.
You may be in the early, raw days of loss. You may be months or years out and still feeling stuck. You may have done other therapy and feel like something is still unresolved. All of that is welcome here.
What Healing Can Look Like
Grief does not follow a timeline. But many clients come to this work feeling heavy, stuck, or disconnected, and leave with something they did not expect: not the absence of grief, but a different relationship with it. Softer. More able to carry.
Some describe feeling closer to the baby or pregnancy they lost. Others feel relief from guilt or unfinished emotional pain. Many feel more able to move forward while still honoring the love that remains.
Still have questions?
It is completely normal to feel uncertain about a process like this, especially when you are already carrying so much. The FAQs below address what I hear most often. And if your question is not there, you are always welcome to reach out directly.
FAQ’s:
-
Yes. It’s a gentle, guided process that works at your pace.
-
No. Many people benefit regardless of their personal beliefs.
-
Traditional talk therapy can be incredibly valuable, but grief that lives in the body often needs more than words.
Both grief therapy with somatic and EMDR approaches and IADC work at a deeper level, helping your nervous system process what your mind has been carrying. Many clients come to me after feeling stuck in grief despite previous therapy, and find that this work reaches places talk therapy did not. -
Yes, and for many clients this combination is where the deepest healing happens.
Grief therapy gives you ongoing support to process the layers of loss at your own pace. IADC offers a more concentrated, structured experience that many people describe as a turning point.
We can talk through what makes sense for you during your consultation. -
IADC is usually completed in just two 90-minute sessions, but some people choose additional sessions for continued support.
-
Yes. I support parents grieving miscarriage, termination for medical reasons, stillbirth, neonatal loss, and infant death. Whatever form your loss took, it is welcome here.
You do not need to qualify or explain whether your grief is significant enough. It is. -
Completely. You do not have to feel ready to reach out. A consultation is just a conversation, no commitment required.
Many clients contact me before they feel ready and find that simply having a space held for them is the first step. -
$750 for two 90-min sessions
Take the Next Step Toward Healing
Grief may change you, but it does not have to define your entire path. If you feel ready to explore a new way of finding peace after loss, whether through grief therapy, IADC, or a combination of both, I am here to walk alongside you.
You are welcome to reach out with questions or book a consultation. I am here to help you feel supported, grounded, and understood.
